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Drew S. says:

I (39 straight male) just found out days ago that my wife (32) of 8 years ( 2 children together) has a very strong attraction to other women. So much so that she’s considering herself a lesbian or bisexual. She did tell me that she experimented in college and liked it; the disclosure was a bombshell. Completely blind sided me. I did sense something was up. It took me a few days to get the courage to ask. I am on the Autism Spectrum and expressing myself is difficult. I want her to be fulfilled. I’m one to sit back and let others enjoy as I go without… but now I’m realizing I need to stick up for myself and speak up. Anyway, this podcast was very insightful- and did help label what emotions I I’m experiencing. Guilt, grief. Betrayal … as I am more hurt from the secrecy. I’m in full support to try to make it work- as this is my second marriage, and she’s my life mate. She full fills me in every way. Except for the last yeah- when the sex stopped- whip is why I asked if something was up. She’s been hiding it that long. Trying to come to terms with what she’s feeling. But yes this podcast was very insightful and positive. Keeping it real that – well, it may not work out- but I will try- in committed to my person. But I’m also grappling with the fact that I may have to let her go…. I can’t stifle her flame, her spunk and determination is what brought us together.

Anne says:

I want us to stay married. We have been married for 32 years and have 5 children. We love each other. He wants us to stay together. He also wants to find connections with men. I’m not ok – I will not seek other relationships, I don’t know how to wrap my head around this. I am desperately seeking stories of couples that make this work.

Charlotte says:

Terrific podcast, again! Touched on so many feelings we all experience.

Sx says:

I just wanted to say thank God for the SS network!
I’m glad the show could be made into a comedy to bring the subject to light.
My experience would unfortunately make it into a horror movie because it was scarier than most of them but of course that’s coming from my own personal experience.
We all have our unique experiences and I’m so glad to find a group that can relate.
I never had anything against gay people but I had a lot of problems with being lied to. My partner and I were both 40 at the time and I thought that was old enough to know what you really are but after a break up he transitioned. I believe people should be who they are and be honest and go ahead and get married that’s what you want but don’t use people in the process i.e. have a beard. I had to get over PTSD and it has taken me some years to get over although I can’t really laugh at my own story at all, I’m thankful to have survived and to meet such wonderful people in this group.

Teresa Upton says:

Excellent and very well researched

Teresa Upton says:

Really interesting and enlightening thank you – I’m not a trans widow but it’s given me an insight into some of the issues involved.

Jim Blackman says:

Thank you for this. I am only into the 3 week of finding out my wife has feelings for another woman after 23 years. Absolutely devastated. This gave me good perspective. Thank you for reaching back out to help the next people behind you. This is so hard.

TRACY says:

This was really good. Thank you Kristin & Michael. I gained some insight regarding deep pain and forgiveness.

Teresa Upton says:

Interesting and useful information on what can be a somewhat difficult subject for many after the trauma of finding themselves to be in a mixed orientation relationship

Tania Prosser says:

I have to say in the fist podcast by Ryan I was angry with him but the second I was thankful . And we have same taste in men my first love was Leif Garret and adore Chris Hemsworth (AUSSIE AS WELL.) My husband still has not admitted to been gay even though he told me earlier in our relationship he was a crossdresser and had thought of gender change but said he had 3 yrs of questioning it and being gay .but as soon as we married no sex and it has been 2 yrs.Have begged for a true answer but nothing .Thankyou Ryan for aleast coming out to your wife thankyou

Greg says:

Ryan, great podcast. I’d love to connect with you privately to ask some candid questions.

Amy says:

Maybe in Ryan’s world no gay man wants anything to do with closeted gay men, but I can assure you that there is a VERY large community of men on the DL. My husband was incredibly popular on the Craigslist M4M board, he even had other men on the DL taking out ads for him to contact them. Hardly a week went by that my ex husband wasn’t hooking up with someone. He traveled and had contacts everywhere he did business. 7500+ emails over 5 years confirmed how active he was, and that’s only the account I had access too.

Mlazgar Sherry says:

Your a strong warrior my beautiful Sister. You have so much wisdom to share n shine the light out of this darkness . Much respect 🙏