A critical component of healing for Straight Partners and Partners of Trans People is our stories, both sharing them and hearing them. We’ve created the Our Voices page to share our latest podcasts, our blog posts, and our new video content. No matter where you are on your journey – whether you are a just a few weeks post discovery or disclosure or several years out, whether you have left your partnership or are remaining in your Mixed Orientation Relationship – you can find community, healing, insights and growth in each other’s stories. Here we share our griefs, our triumphs, our traumas and our recoveries as we forge new paths forward.
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Our Voices Podcasts
Podcasts
Guest: Karen Slater Karen Slater had a lot to forgive her closeted husband for, not the least of which is the impact his sexual rejection had on her. It created profound insecurity about her body and sparked years of…
Guest: Ann Anderson Evans, Author Author Ann Anderson Evans shares her story of loss and healing after she discovered her husband’s body the morning after he took his own life. After a decades long struggle with his gender identity…
Terri 
Guest: Sally Srok Author and Coach Sally Srok shares her experience of losing herself in a 20-year mixed orientation marriage, learning her husband was gay, and how she rebuilt her life after divorce. After a birthday trip on a…
Straight Talk Blog
Blog
By Kristin Kalbli The character Ted Lasso is, in my opinion, a delightful pop sage of our times, and one of his most impactful platitudes is undoubtedly, “be curious, not judgmental.” Observing that he had been misjudged his whole…
By Kristin Kalbli At OurPath, we know that when June rolls around each year, many straight spouses struggle. It’s not news that June is internationally celebrated as LGBT+ Pride month. What began as a righteous and necessary protest march…
By Ellen Koretz Ah, pronouns, those vexatious little words. English lacks a widely-accepted gender-neutral singular pronoun, although it sure could use one. My former spouse – now, there’s a nice, gender-neutral word – has come out as transgender. I…
our path videos
our path videos
Founder Amity Pierce Buxton welcomes you to OurPath, formerly known as the Straight Spouse Network. Watch to learn about our organization’s recommitment to our founding mission.
Amity Pierce Buxton gives a seminar in Houston, Texas in the 1990s about her research into the Straight Partner experience.
Part Two of Amity Pierce Buxton’s seminar in Houston, Texas, 1990s.
Lynn, your message means so much to me! I’m so glad my story resonated with you. It’s always amazed me how much all of our stories are so different, and yet they are all so much the same. 33 years of marriage is such a long time! I’m glad you’ve found your people now… we hear and get you.
I have just finished listening to S7 Ep 3 and I really wanted to leave a comment. I think it’s great that Karen can forgive her ex for what he did and was glad she also recognized that not all situations are the same. She touched on a subject that I really want to comment on. This subject relates to children. She said she wouldn’t have them if it weren’t for her ex but she also could’ve had them with someone else that wasn’t hiding secrets and thus the kids would grow up in a loving home with both parents not a broken home. What these spouses don’t realize is that they didn’t only break up a marriage they broke up a family! I, unlike Karen have never gotten an apology from my ex and don’t expect to ever receive one. He is off living the single life and doesn’t care about the family he once had. So just to reiterate, not all situations are the same .
I have been listening to your Podcast since I found it last summer after discovering my husband is gay after 33 years of marriage and 3 children. I felt so alone until I started listening and felt I had found my people. This particular episode with Karen Slater really spoke to me and was such a familiar story. I felt like she was telling my story. Please pass this onto Karen she has really made me feel seen and understood.
Thank you and please keep doing what you are doing; it is so important to many of us.
Lynn
So healing for me to listen to all these podcasts for 9 years now I can relate to them so much I also forgave but will never forget an abusive 21 yr marriage 3 children .
Made peace again with him 6 yrs after I divorced him he said he still loved me I lost him 2 yrs ago x
An interesting episode – I think the point about what having a partner who isn’t attracted to you sexually does to your self-image is something I’ve really observed over the years. It is something we can rectify but this takes time and a lot of positive affirmation. This affects both men and women who have had an LGBT partner/spouse.
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