Guest: Libby Sinback
2/3 of Mixed Orientation Couples will try to stay together post disclosure or discovery. Often they try opening their relationships as a way to keep their families together. Guest Libby Sinback is the host of the Making Polyamory Work Podcast. She gives us a 101 tutorial on open relationships, and how to proceed with mindfulness, respect, and realistic expectations.
My wife(gay) and I have been in MOM for 20 years now. With the help of a marriage counselor we opened up our marriage. We discovered that we could not satisfy each other intimately so we had to redefine our relationship. She has a regular lesbian partner and I have met my needs elsewhere. In our new marriage relationship we love each other dearly but without sexual intimacy.
Our main rule is to keep each other informed of our activities. The other partner can raise questions and voice concerns but does not have a veto since that would be power of one over the other. We respect each other’s integrity and honesty.
While our arrangement is working for us I do not claim it is for everyone. Through all this the support I have had from Our Path (Previously SSN) has been crucial.
I want us to stay married. We have been married for 32 years and have 5 children. We love each other. He wants us to stay together. He also wants to find connections with men. I’m not ok – I will not seek other relationships, I don’t know how to wrap my head around this. I am desperately seeking stories of couples that make this work.
Awesome podcast
Dies libby provide virtual therapy
Please send list of books on open relationships in mixed marriages
I (39 straight male) just found out days ago that my wife (32) of 8 years ( 2 children together) has a very strong attraction to other women. So much so that she’s considering herself a lesbian or bisexual. She did tell me that she experimented in college and liked it; the disclosure was a bombshell. Completely blind sided me. I did sense something was up. It took me a few days to get the courage to ask. I am on the Autism Spectrum and expressing myself is difficult. I want her to be fulfilled. I’m one to sit back and let others enjoy as I go without… but now I’m realizing I need to stick up for myself and speak up. Anyway, this podcast was very insightful- and did help label what emotions I I’m experiencing. Guilt, grief. Betrayal … as I am more hurt from the secrecy. I’m in full support to try to make it work- as this is my second marriage, and she’s my life mate. She full fills me in every way. Except for the last yeah- when the sex stopped- whip is why I asked if something was up. She’s been hiding it that long. Trying to come to terms with what she’s feeling. But yes this podcast was very insightful and positive. Keeping it real that – well, it may not work out- but I will try- in committed to my person. But I’m also grappling with the fact that I may have to let her go…. I can’t stifle her flame, her spunk and determination is what brought us together.