Resources for the LGBT+ Partner

Therapist Anna Fels writes about the psychological impact of “sudden material information” being uncovered in marriage.

Dr. Drescher elaborates on the psychological issues faced by LGBT+ individuals coming out. “More severe forms of dissociation are commonly observed in married men who are homosexually self-aware but cannot permit the thought of themselves as gay (Roughton, 2002).” Author: Jack Drescher, MD.

Author Melisa Raney writes about discovering her own sexuality after marriage and children.

A story of a partner’s transition and how the couple navigated that transition. Author: Brigitte Lacombe

Author Juliet Jeske makes the Straight Partner’s case for marriage equality.

Explores the steps and factors to consider when discussing whether or not to make your Mixed Orientation Relationship work. Author: Iamclinic

For many years, the author had coped with her spouse’s moodiness, but that chronic unhappiness was taking a toll on their marriage. A little over a year after their child came out, her partner also came out as transgender. Knowing better than most what would lie ahead, Jetté Knox searched for positive examples of marriages surviving transition. When she found no role models, she determined that her family would become one. The shift was challenging, but slowly the family members noticed that they were becoming happier and more united. Told with remarkable candour and humour, and full of insight into the challenges faced by trans people, Love Lives Here is a beautiful story of transition, frustration, support, acceptance, and, of course, love. Author: Amanda Jette Knox.

This article traces the origins of the term Men who have sex with men (MSM) as a way to help epidemiologists trying to study HIV transmission in males engaging in same sex sexual activity but who did not identify as gay due to the stigma surrounding homosexuality and HIV/AIDS. Authors: James Myhre & Dennis Sifris, MD.

Blogger Juliet Jeske chronicles the discovery that her husband was gay, and the response of those around her. She dispels the myth that her marriage was not a farce and that her husband actually loved her. She writes about the trauma of betrayal, and the added stigma of being a straight spouse.

In this third edition of Married Women Who Love Women, Carren Strock gives women ways in which to structure and restructure their lives and their families after they realize their same-gender sexuality. Chapters consider questions such as how women make this discovery, reactions from loved ones, and the outcomes for marriages and families. Updated throughout with contemporary understandings of sexuality and gender, this book includes a wealth of information, fresh narratives, and stories offering insight into women’s experiences across the country.

An interview with Bonnie Kaye, Straight Partner and author. Author: Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW.

Betrayal is treachery, deception, and violated trust. It can appear as a broken promise, duplicity, lies, sexual affairs, and even affairs of the heart. The injury is so great that some people seem to never recover. Author: George S. Everly, Jr., Ph.D.