Guest: Dr. Joe Kort, Marriage and Sex Therapist
Marriage and sex therapist Dr. Joe Kort discusses whether or not straight men can want gay sex, a controversial position among straight spouses. When a wife discovers her husband’s gay porn, explicit chats with other men, of evidence of infidelity, she rightfully asks if her husband is actually straight. We dive into the nuances of straight men who, for myriad reasons, might seek sexual contact with other men. Dr. Kort gives his assessment for determining if men who are troubled by their same sex interest are gay, straight or bi, and advice for women concerned about their men.
I am understanding what is being said, but it is not fair to have a Husband to cheat with a guy even though he says he isn’t gay. Trauma response? How many times does a guy have to do that to get over his trauma. (Sarcasm)
As in my case, how do you look at your ex husband as straight when he has been with sissy sluts/shemales on dating sites looking for a submissive shemale. If it’s not gay, I’ll tell you it also is not or should not be called being straight but having a fetish to have secret sex with a man with breasts and a penis dressed up as a woman. That is not being straight, what is so wrong with saying a person like that is bi or bifetish if the male ego can’t handle being called gay or bi. If you were looking for a traditional marriage all of it is selfish and wrong if your straight wife is clueless.
I had sex with a shemale before I was married. I’m still attracted to shemales and on occasion watch porn. However I would never cheat on my wife with a shemale or a woman. My wife knows about it and wasn’t very happy about it, and questioned if I was gay. I’m definitely not gay, I consider myself bi. I dont really know how to explain it , I do not look at men and get turned on or fantasize about having sex with one. I absolutely love everything about a womans body, shape, softness etc . I do not want anything to do with a penis unless is on a shemale that looks and feels like a woman. My wife laughs at me and says IT’S A MAN ..lol we have a great relationship and love each other very much, guess thats why she still with me and we have amazing sex.
I accidentally found out that my husband is on gay dating sites. He says he is straight and has never been with a man. He has posted pictures of himself on a profile, and plans dates. I saw no evidence of actual interactions. Everyone tells me he is a cheater and a liar. Do I throw my (previously ) happy marriage away over this?
Remember the saying —”If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck”? Well, if a man is having sex with other men regularly, then at the very least he’s bisexual. In my soon-to-be ex-husband’s case, he’s still claiming he’s straight and prefers sex with women, even though we never did it much and when we did, it wasn’t very good. He also had plenty of opportunities to be with other women. He says he can’t cheat with other women because he’ll get emotionally involved but with men, it’s just wham bam hook ups, no romance, or kissing or hugging. I think he’s full of s—-. He’s been pursuing men for years now in secret. What a dummy I was. I had no idea about this MSM B.S. Sorry Dr. Kort, I think you’re just catering to these “straight pretenders” who are too cowardly and in denial to come out. Shame on all of you. Cheating is cheating and hiding in your closet serves only these cowards who want the best of the straight man world while they’re lying to their wives and families and hiding their gay closeted lives. This does nothing to further LGBTQ rights and it’s deeply harmful to your wives, girlfriends and families, whether you admit it to yourselves or not. Trust me, I married a gay man who can’t admit to himself that he’s gay in spite of lifelong sex with men. I was deeply depressed and anxious for so many years without knowing why. Now that I know and divorcing him, I’m getting better ever day. Honestly is truly the best policy her. Man up and come out, you MSMs!
My husband likes to watch shemale porn and loves to please himself while watching it. I found pictures of his penis being sent to a shemale. I have no proof that he has cheated but he loves for me to put things in his rectum. I so to ow what to think or am I over thinking.