Guest: Eric Kearsley

Today, Eric describes his personal journey coming to terms with his homosexuality, his misery over acting out sexually outside of his marriage, his determination to come out to his wife, and how their mixed orientation marriage works today. Eric also shares with us the mission of GAMMA, the Gay and Married Men’s Association, who welcome all men who are married to women, but who are sexually attracted to men, whether they identify as gay or not.

Eric describes his own reaction to his sexual encounters with men in the 80’s: “By that time, we were right smack dab in the middle of the AID’s crisis, and so the terror of what I risked, not just my marriage, not just what I felt I owed my wife, but I risked her safety and my safety. And I remember going through these terrible times where I asked myself what would I do if I ever turned HIV positive, and my reaction was, ‘I could never tell her,’ and I would have to kill myself. I couldn’t face my kids, and I couldn’t face her.”